Turning Mistakes into Mastery

Expect to make some mistakes. Nothing important will be accomplished if you only make ‘safe’ decisions. — Warren G. Buffett The late Gen. Bernard Adolph Schriever, widely regarded as the father and architect of the Air Force space and ballistic missile programs, was a big proponent of failure. I’m not saying that he enjoyed failing—no […]


The Cure for Ambivalence

As a child, Black History Month and the Civil Rights Movement failed to capture my interest or imagination beyond a few fleeting moments. They didn’t seem to play much of a role in my daily suburban life, nor did racism or the struggle for equality strike me as battles being actively fought. I felt like […]

Masculinity Self-Care

Tears and Black Masculinity

“Crying is cleansing. There’s a reason for tears, happiness or sadness.” —Dionne Warwick Get over it. Suck it up. I don’t want to hear it. Dry em up. What are you crying for? As an African American male I’ve heard all of these. Whether from my own family, friends, television or movies, it always struck […]


My Foreigner

This is a personal short story that I wrote in 2007. It is about my partner at the time, who made an honest (and telling) comment to me, which contributed to me later breaking up with them. My reason for sharing this story is not related to the topic of dating. It is related to […]


Close-Up on the Background: A Conversation with Sergio Giral, The Father of Afro-Cuban Cinema

The concept of “Afro-Cuban” art has always garnered a great deal of attention from enthusiasts of the African Diaspora. Although it is ubiquitous and synonymous with most Cuban art on the island, drawing no particular distinction, this hyphenated genre among a more global audience is defined more by the subject of Black culture in Cuba […]


The Future of Work

Once upon a time, I made a living as an IT consultant for a company called Accenture. For most people, Accenture is the company that has huge, strange ads in airports across the nation. For their 375,000 employees, it’s a way of life. My life was interesting and fast-paced—I was on an airplane twice a […]


Earning the Black Vote

Realistically, the African American community contributes in the neighborhood of only ten million votes in a national election. It takes sixty million to win. The assumed novelty of the African American vote is that African Americans vote in a condensed group. This is what the Democratic party has been exploiting since the 1960s. Again, don’t […]


madness and mindfulness

One of my favorite pastimes is walking Marcus Garvey Park, a twenty acre square in Harlem that forces Fifth Avenue traffic to slow down and behold its gated splendor. By day, the park plays host to pickup basketball games, boisterous children, and an endless parade of pooping dogs. By night, it’s largely deserted. Last week, […]


Young, Gifted, Black and Privileged

I’m the oldest child of the new generation of Blackness in my family. My elders made their way from 1970s Crown Heights, Long Beach and Acre’s Home, Houston to upper middle class America. They also taught me that education is what changed their lives. I’m the child of a Black electrical engineer and a Black […]


Learning to Float

unlearning is a part of the journey. relearning is a part of the blessing. —alex elle Note to Readers: I’ve been praying through journaling this past year. I have a massive document filled with prayers about many things—mainly faith, love, relationships, and purpose—and I want to share a few with you. This is deeply personal […]